How to stop obsessing over your body (self-objectification)
Are you constantly obsessing over what others think about your body, even when nobody is watching you?
If so, you’re engaging in what’s called ‘self-objectification’.
Studies show that engaging in self-objectification puts you at a disadvantage.
When your head is filled with worries about the way your body looks, you can’t focus properly on your studies, work, etc.
So in today’s post, I’m sharing three ways to stop self-objectification that are recommended by body image experts.
Watch or read below:
What is self-objectification?
According to Lindsay Kite, PhD of Take Back Beauty, self-objectification is when you constantly think about your appearance even when you think your appearance is ‘good’.
It’s the process of constantly monitoring your body from an outsider’s perspective, even when there isn’t anyone looking at you.
Studies show that if girls or women are self-objectifying, they perform worse on maths and reading comprehension tests and can’t perform physical tests as well.
So if even a small part of your headspace is tied up with thinking about your looks, you’re putting yourself at a disadvantage.
Self-objectification and body image
Self-objectification also goes hand in hand with negative body image. That’s because it’s very difficult to feel good about your body if you’re judging it constantly.
Even if you feel positively about your body, if you’re thinking about it purely in terms of appearance, your body image is likely to worsen over time as your appearance changes.
In order to feel better in your body, you need to see yourself as more than a body. This means taking the focus off your body.
Beating the body checking habit
If you’re someone who is engaging in self-objectification, I’ve got a few tips to help you quit the habit:
Awareness is key
Firstly, become aware when you are self-objectifying. Notice your thoughts and behaviours and make a note of these. Look back over your notes to see if you can spot any themes.
Is there a reoccurring thought or a particular situation that triggers self-objectification? This step is all about raising your awareness, so try not to judge your thoughts or behaviours.
Create a distraction
Secondly, once you’ve got a greater awareness of your self-objectification habits, begin to disrupt them as they occur.
So when you notice you are body checking or thinking about your appearance, interrupt this by doing something else.
You might choose to engage in the same activity every time you notice yourself self-objectifying. Decide what works for you.
It might be something physical like doing star jumps, saying a mantra out loud such as “I’m more than a body” or it could be as subtle as wearing a rubber band around your wrist and pinging it each time your self-objectify.
Carry on regardless
Thirdly, notice the self-objectification and carry on doing what you were doing anyway!
Often, certain situations will trigger the self-objectifying behaviours. Things like social situations, exercising, doing a presentation.
Even if you have the desire to check or fix some aspect of your appearance, do your best to carry on anyway.
Curbing self-objectification is worth it
When you don’t respond to the urge to check or fix, you’re building your body image resilience.
If you can fully engage in whatever you’re doing and focus on being in the moment, you may begin to enjoy what you’re doing and forget your body!
Working to curb self-objectification and see yourself as more than a body is important for building a healthier body image.
I’d love to hear about your experience of self-objectification and how you found these tips. Please leave a comment below.
I’m so glad I finally found a word for this! I have social anxiety and borderline personality disorder and I struggle with this. Worrying about how I’m appearing to other people all the time, worrying about what I look like doing whatever it is I’m doing. I don’t actually see myself outside my body, and it isn’t necessarily dissociation, but this explains it perfectly. Thank you!
Hi Kellina
I’m so glad this has been helpful to you, and thank you for letting me know 🙂
Sometimes it’s useful to put a description or label on something you’re experiencing. It’s nice to know that you aren’t alone.
I hope that the tips for dealing with self-objectification helped you too.
Wishing you all the best,
Judi xoxo
Thank you for this video, I really appreciate you! My mom raised me to always be focused on my appearance and she would always compare me to others saying,” your better than your cousins and those girls.” This made me feel worse about myself and I have always felt super insecure. I feel like my mom in a few ways objectified me growing up. I’m now 15 and I am learning how to enjoy being myself, how to have confidence, love my body without objecting myself, and how to not compare myself to others!
Hey Tiana
Thanks for commenting on my post! I’m so pleased that this post helped.
Yes, it sounds like your Mother has been objectifying you and probably has her own insecurities about her appearance.
Keep doing what you’re doing and focus on valuing yourself regardless of appearance.
Judi
xoxo