How to value yourself for a happier life


Do you find valuing yourself difficult?

If you’re like most people, it isn’t easy to value yourself.

Yet, valuing yourself is important for living a happy and fulfilled life.

So in this post, I’m sharing four steps you can take to start valuing yourself.

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Valuing yourself is vital for living a happy, contented life. When you know your worth it gives you the confidence to live your life doing the things you want to do.

However, valuing yourself isn’t easy for most people. Far too often we rely on other people valuing us rather than doing it for ourselves.

In this age of social media and constant comparisons, we allow our value to be dictated by how we stack up against others in our work, relationships, home life and appearance.

But when your worth relies on external validation it will never be stable, but at the mercy of what others think or what society deems has value at any given time.

But here’s the thing – the value you place on yourself is the only type you can control.

How to value yourself

So if you’re struggling with valuing yourself, what steps can you take to recognise and believe in your value? I’ve got four steps for you to try:

Firstly, get clear on what valuing yourself means. It’s not just about regarding yourself as important. It means you appreciate your qualities and are prepared to invest time and effort into nurturing yourself. In other words, you can’t say you value yourself if you’re not prepared to act like you do!

Secondly, if you’re struggling to figure out how to value yourself, think about the people you know who truly value and accept themselves. What kinds of things do they do, say, think and feel? This will give you an indication of what you need to do if you want to begin valuing yourself. For example, maybe someone you know carefully protects the time they have for themselves or is self-compassionate.

Thirdly, think about who or what you value. Valuing others helps you recognise your own. So if, for example, you respect people who are kind and caring, perhaps you see this as a valuable trait within yourself too.

Finally, based on what you’ve learned in the previous steps, create some empowering habits for valuing yourself. What things can you do on a consistent basis to recognise and reinforce the value you have for yourself? For example, you might decide to commit to a regular gratitude and/or journaling practice.

I’d love to know if these steps help. Please leave me a comment below.

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